I'm going through a hard time right now, and I have a serious question for you guys. My dad is in the hospital, for the 6th time in 2 months. This time he was admitted to the ICU. On one hand, I want to be there with him, but at the same time, I have my own life to think about, and that includes college and my boyfriend. My father has done a lot for me in my life, even fought to get me out if the foster care system. But it's starting to get annoying how frequently I am going to the hospital now. He says he wants me to move back home with him, but he won't take care if himself. What do I do? Do I move back in with him, or do I stay where I am? Please let me know what you think I should do. Thank you, and God bless.
Slacker asks, how long can one put their life on hold for their loved ones? At some point you do have to live your own life. He says that he wouldn’t want to be this dad. Asking his kids to stop their life and take care of him is not fair.
Steve left to start his career when his mom was sick and he feels regret over this. Your allowed to make the choice to not be their constantly every time. When is there a point where enough is enough? The word annoying is a little cold.
What advice do you have for Candy?
My grandmother died last year and I went to see her twice before she died in California and she passed 2 weeks after I got home. I felt bad not being by her side in her final moments but I have my own responsibilities that I have to take care of too. I went back again for her funeral. Three trips are a lot but I owed her far more. I know she was sad to see me go but loves me enough to know and understand my situation. I am at peace with my decision.
This is difficult since you want to repay your loved ones for all that they have done for us. We are often in their debt so we should support them in every way we can. If this was my problem I would let him know that I love him and suggest that he get the medical help that he needs that I am not qualified to perform. Perhaps an in home nurse or an assisted living facility if he feels he needs help. I would offer to visit often and provide assistance in acquiring the needed help. If he refuses then it is no longer your fault.