OPP: Read Daughter's Diary
Today’s OPP is from Elaine:
Yi! I found my 15-year-old daughter’s diary and I read it. I know it wasn’t the right thing to do but I did it and I don’t like what I saw. She wrote about being pressured to do drugs after school and getting more physical with her boyfriend. I feel like I need to talk to her about these situations, but I clearly can’t start the conversation by telling her I violated her privacy and read her diary. Ignorance is bliss, but how do you handle it when you know things about your child that you’re not ‘supposed’ to…but need to do something about it?
Slacker knows that when his kids are older he will be going through the exact same thing. Parents know that they shouldn’t snoop and trust their kids to make the right decisions, although Slacker is convinced that he will be the parent that goes though all of the technology and social media his kids are involved with. You have to trust your kid, up until the point they break your trust and are caught red handed. Ultimately in the end Slacker and Steve know that if the kids are under the parents roof they have the right to access valuable information that might be hiding in that room of theirs.
What advice do you have for Elaine?
I think Elaine should take this one concern at a time. Talk about the relations or drugs, and just casually say I saw this thing about teens and relations or drugs and Elaine should state how she feels, and tell her that she would be super disappointed if she ever found out that her daughter was doing those things. Kids never want to disappoint their parents and so hearing those words might sway her to refrain as she is now.
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